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The Importance of Kindness

Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Affection, gentleness, warmth, concern, and care are words that are associated with kindness. While kindness has a connotation of meaning someone is naive or weak, that is not the case. Being kind often requires courage and strength. Kindness is an interpersonal skill.

You’ve heard about survival of the fittest and Darwin. Survival of the fittest is usually associated with selfishness, meaning that to survive (a basic instinct) means to look out for yourself. But Darwin, who studied human evolution, actually didn’t see mankind as being biologically competitive and self-interested. Darwin believed that we are a profoundly social and caring species. He argued that sympathy and caring for others is instinctual (DiSalvo, Scientific American, 2017)

Current research supports this idea. Science has now shown that devoting resources to others, rather than having more and more for yourself, brings about lasting well-being. Kindness has been found by researchers to be the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Many colleges, including Harvard, are now emphasizing kindness on applications for admission.

There are different ways to practice kindness. One way to be kind is to open your eyes and be active when you see people in need. Do you notice when people could use a helping hand? A sense of community is created when people are kind to those who need help.

Opening your eyes means noticing when others are suffering. A kind word, a smile, opening a door, or helping carry a heavy load can all be acts of kindness. Celebrating someone you love, giving honest compliments, sending an email thanking someone, telling someone how s/he is special to you, helping an elderly neighbor with yard work or food, taking a photo of someone and sending it to the person, sharing homemade food, refusing to gossip, and donating old clothing and things you don’t need are all ideas about how to practice kindness.

Kindness is a willingness to full-heartedly celebrate someone else’s successes. Gottman’s work shows that your response to someone’s successes may determine more about your relationship than how you respond when times are difficult. Do you minimize the success, not pay attention to it, or bring up all the problems with the success? Kindness is to be openly happy for the other person.

Kindness is also about telling the truth in a gentle way when doing so is helpful to the other person. Receiving accurate feedback in a loving and caring way is an important part of a trusted relationship. The courage to give and receive truthful feedback is a key component of growth and flexible thinking.

Kindness includes being kind to yourself. Do you treat yourself kindly? Do you speak gently and kindly to yourself and take good care of yourself?

There are many ways to be kind and many opportunities to practice. Perhaps kindness is a value that could add more satisfaction to and strengthen your relationships.

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10 Amazing, Fun & Interesting Facts About World

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Interesting Facts About The World

#1: Life on Earth

  • The Earth is almost Five billion years old but, life has existed only for the last 150 million to 200 million years. This is estimated to be about 5% of its lifetime.

 

#2: What’s in a day?

  • After years and years of revolving and rotating, the planet is slowing down too. Millions of years ago, a day was only 20 hours long. A few million years later, it will be 27 hours long.

 

#3: Run for your life! Melting Ice!!

  • Global warming is likely to impact Maldives heavily, as it is the country with a lowest height above sea level of 1.8 meters and will go under water.
  • There are only 27 glaciers left in Montana’s Glacier National Park, versus 150 in 1910.
  • The ocean’s circulation system, ocean conveyor belt’s alteration could cause a mild ice age in Europe.

 

#4: Water, water, everywhere!

  • The Earth’s water is 97% Salt and 3% fresh. Canada claims to have the most of the 3% in the form of lakes with over 3 million of them and accounting for the world’s 60% of lakes.
  • The largest oceans on Earth are the Pacific, followed by the Atlantic and the Indian, in that order.
  • In the fresh water category, the Nile is the longest river followed by the Amazon river.

 

#4: Behind Bars

  • The United States leads with the most number of people behind bars, having 25% of the world’s population of people behind bars. China comes second, followed by Russia in the third spot.

 

#5: High & Low

  • The Mount Everest is the highest peak of the world with an imposing height of 8848 meters. The Mariana Trench is the deepest part of the Earth, which is deeper than Mount Everest is high.
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Reasons Why You Need a Dog in Your Life

Life Without Dogs… We Don’t Think So!

We all know how cute dogs are and how much fun they are to play with. But they also eat a lot, poop a lot and get into all kinds of mischief. They are expensive, and require a lot of time and attention. So do you really need a four-legged friend? YES, you do! And here are the Top 10 reasons why you need a dog to jazz up your life:

1. Dogs increase your mood dramatically! 

Spending just 15-30 minutes with your dog can help you feel more calm and relaxed, reducing stress and increasing happiness. Playing with your pup increases your brain’s levels of dopamine and serotonin, both of which are neurotransmitters associated with pleasure and tranquility. So the next time you’re feeling down, grab a toy and spend some time with your pup! That wagging tail will be sure to put a smile on your face.


2. Humans with dogs recover more quickly from illnesses.

Dog owners have a much higher rate of recovery from being sick than non-dog owners. In fact, humans with pooches who suffer from heart attacks are twice as likely to fully recover as those without! So start cuddling your dog!


3. Having a dog improves your physical well-being and encourages a healthy fitness.

Of course! Your dog requires daily exercise, and so do you! Dog owners carry the responsibility of playing with and working their dogs, so it only makes sense that dog people tend to be more active.


4. Dogs help increase social interactions.

Not only do dogs need care and playtime with their humans, but they need time to socialise with other pups too! This means that their humans will have a chance to socialise while they oversee the puppy playdates. Even going on a walk in the neighborhood can bring many new friends around and start many conversations!


5. Having a dog makes YOU more awesome!

The responsibility, patience, selflessness, and commitment that come with having a dog make us stronger, all-around better people.


6. Owning a dog could make you more attractive to potential love matches.

According to a study conducted by Dog’s Trust, out of 700 surveyed people, 60 percent said that owning a dog can make others more attractive, while 85 percent think people are more approachable when they are with a dog.

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Prepare Yourself for Prosperity With These 6 Success Habits

Success stories don’t come from naturally successful people. They come from ordinary people with starry eyes and big dreams who stayed true to their end goal and consistently put in the work. They are just like you and me. What sets them apart is their mindset — a success mindset.

Some people equate success with money and materialistic possessions; however this is only a fragment of what it can be. Others may have generated this image of perfectionism that finds them unfulfilled and out of touch with life’s submission. Materialistic success gives the appearance and image of looking the part; however you can look the part yet feel like a fraud at the core of your existence.

If materialism is the external evidence of success, then the inner question becomes what does success ‘feel’ like? As much as someone may look like they have it all together, feeling down and negative will get very little accomplished. You can’t find success naturally, you have to work for it. Those who have created success in their lives have developed an inner dialogue of success and achievement. If you feel unproductive, then maybe it’s high time to take a closer look at your mindset.

Success starts with a growth mindset. Your mental attitude is impacted by the way you value yourself. Becoming fixated on materialism and how much you acquire will limit you from unleashing a high-performance capacity of your unique strengths and talents. To accomplish growth and expansion, it’s important to understand what success means to you. When you shift your mindset to a more positive direction, you will feel more enlightened and motivated to reach your goals.

Create your success story and allow the law of attraction to manifest prosperity in your life. Here’s how:

1. Have a clear understanding of what success means in your life

What does success mean to you? Knowing and fully clarifying your goals and desires is vital before you can achieve success. Think about it this way: how do you know you have achieved “success” if you don’t have any goals or desires, and whether those goals and desires are met?

Get beyond image and focus on your self-value. Self-value is the other part of success. It can be challenging to express your worth when you don’t create the practice of persistency with pursuing your goals. Remain persistent even when things don’t go according to plan. Keep your expectations optimistic. You know what people say, “a positive attitude will take you a long way”.

“Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.” – George Sheehan

2. Find and declare your intentions

Have a clear vision about where you want to go and what you should do to get there. Gain clarity about what you want to be, what do you want to do, why do you want to do it and where do you want to go? And what should you do for you to achieve all those? Become intentional about your success journey with a sense of consciousness. Visualize your next steps to help you plan to accomplish your purpose or your goals.  By knowing these and setting your intentions, you can train your mind to focus on what truly matters to you.

3. Treat success as a journey

You may have heard the infamous saying that success stories don’t happen overnight. Success can come in different phases and times of your life. Whether it’s with work, business, or life in general. Milestones, from starting a business to starting a family, can impact your meaning of success and may change with time. Amidst the transitions, work with what you got to create income and impact. Focus on your strengths and do those things that build self-value.

4. Walk your own pace

It is possible to be successful in one area of your life and unsuccessful in other areas. So celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how big or small they may be. Be more aware of your strengths and weaknesses. Give yourself grace and space with those areas that still need maturation and walk your own pace. While you’ll feel like other people are already succeeding in their goals, it doesn’t mean your success won’t come. Focus on your own growth and process, and don’t chase after success. Your time will come. Just walk your own pace and learn from your journey.

5. Use your obstacles and challenges as leverage

Human beings are not wired to live perfect lives. We can try and try to be perfect, but in the end, we’re all still humans. We all face setbacks and challenges at some point in our lives, so the end result and our future is entirely up to us. It’s in continuously falling down and rising back up that we learn from our experience, and it’s using those learnings and experience that will help you finally succeed. Will you allow those setbacks and challenges to hinder your growth and success? Or will you allow those challenges and obstacles to serve as leverage for your next level achievements?

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals.” – Henry Ford

6. Become a reflective practitioner

Create a practice of self- inventory of your mindset to re-evaluate your idea of success. The power of persistence and experience can manifest outcomes that are favorable and empowering to build your mindset for your future achievements. You can simply do this by meditating for at least 10 minutes every morning, writing affirmations and visualizations, and by journaling at the start or end of the day. Setting your intentions for the day and self-reflecting increases mood and productivity, which in turn helps you get a lot of things done.

Developing a success mindset can be beneficial not just with success, but also in terms of mental health.  Not only will you attract and manifest prosperity; you’ll feel more at ease and at peace with your goals, your journey, and most importantly — yourself.

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The Best Bosses Are Humble Bosses

After decades of screening potential leaders for charm and charisma, some employers are realizing they’ve been missing one of the most important traits of all: humility.

In an era when hubris is rewarded on social media and in business and politics, researchers and employment experts say turning the limelight on humble people might yield better results.

Humility is a core quality of leaders who inspire close teamwork, rapid learning and high performance in their teams, according to several studies in the past three years. Humble people tend to be aware of their own weaknesses, eager to improve themselves, appreciative of others’ strengths and focused on goals beyond their own self-interest.

Among employees, it’s linked to lower turnover and absenteeism. These strengths are often overlooked because humble people tend to fly under the radar, making outsiders think it’s their teams doing all the work.

More companies are taking humility into account in making hiring and promotion decisions. Researchers are developing new methods of tracking this low-key trait.

Hogan Assessments, a leading maker of workplace personality tests, plans to unveil a new 20-item scale early in 2019 designed to measure humility in job seekers and candidates for leadership posts, says Ryne Sherman, chief science officer for the Tulsa, Okla., company. The scale will prompt people to agree or disagree with such statements as, “I appreciate other people’s advice at work,” or “I’m entitled to more respect than the average person.”

“Most of the thinking suggests leaders should be charismatic, attention-seeking and persuasive,” Dr. Sherman says. “Yet such leaders tend to ruin their companies because they take on more than they can handle, are overconfident and don’t listen to feedback from others,” he says.

Humble leaders can also be highly competitive and ambitious. But they tend to avoid the spotlight and give credit to their teams, Dr. Sherman says. They also ask for help and listen to feedback from others, setting an example that causes subordinates to do the same.

More employers are also screening entry-level recruits for humility. That’s partly because it predicts ethical behavior and longer tenure on the job, says Adam Miller, chief executive of Cornerstone OnDemand, a Santa Monica, Calif., provider of talent-management software.

The apparel company Patagonia begins scrutinizing job applicants for humility as soon as they walk through the door for interviews. Managers screening new recruits follow up by asking receptionists, “How did they engage at the front desk?” says Dean Carter, global head of human resources for the Ventura, Calif.-based company.

POLL: HOW HUMBLE ARE YOU?

Do you agree or disagree with these statements?

1) I appreciate other people’s advice at work.

2) It’s not my job to applaud others’ achievements.

3) People lose respect when they admit their limitations.

4) I am entitled to more respect than the average person.

5) I do many things better than almost everyone I know.

6) It annoys me when others ignore my accomplishments.

People high in humility tend to agree with Item 1 and disagree with Items 2 through 6.

Source: Hogan Assessment Systems

If staff members report disrespectful or self-absorbed behavior, “that can be a deal killer,” he says. Fostering humility makes employees at all levels feel free to suggest ideas, Mr. Carter says. Humble employees also are more likely to support the company’s mission of helping solve environmental problems.

In interviews, he asks applicants to tell him about a time when they experienced a major failure. “If they say, ‘Wow, let me think about this, because there are a lot of times when I’ve messed things up,’ that says a lot,” he says. “If they have to pick among a lot of humble learning moments, that’s good.”

Indian Hotels, operator of the luxury Taj Hotels in the U.S. and elsewhere, uses Hogan’s assessments, among others, to screen potential leaders. “Humility is an emotional skill leaders need to have,” says P.V. Ramana Murthy, global head of human resources for the Mumbai-based company. Humility gives rise to deep listening, respect for diverse views and a willingness to hear suggestions and feedback, he says.

The company also tries to instill humility in senior executives through coaching and a nine-month training program.

If you think you know which of your colleagues are humble, you could easily be wrong. Humble people don’t flaunt it. And many workers, including arrogant ones, try to be seen as humble and helpful to make a good impression, says Kibeom Lee, a psychology professor at the University of Calgary in Alberta.

Hogan’s new humility scale is based in part on research by Dr. Lee and Michael Ashton, a psychology professor at Brock University in St. Catharines, Ontario. After reviewing personality research in several languages years ago, they identified a combination of humility and honesty, or what they called the H factor, as a stable personality trait.

FAMOUS THOUGHTS ON HUMILITY

 

  • ‘The greater thou art, the more humble thyself.’—The Apocrypha
  • ‘After crosses and losses, men grow humbler and wiser.’—Benjamin Franklin
  • ‘It is fatal to pretend. I prefer to do anything on the quiet rather than boast about it.’—Indira Gandhi
  • ‘Where there is patience and humility, there is neither anger nor vexation.’—St. Francis of Assisi
  • ‘Life is a long lesson in humility.’—J.M. Barrie

It’s marked by a cluster of attributes that appear consistently in some people, including sincerity, modesty, fairness, truthfulness and unpretentiousness. The same people tend to avoid manipulating others, bending the rules or behaving in greedy or hypocritical ways. The H factor is included in a free online personality inventory they developed.

Workplace researchers often rely on subordinates’ reports to assess leaders’ level of humility. In a 2015 study of 326 employees working on 77 teams at a health-care company, researchers asked team members to assess their managers’ humility, based on a scale including their willingness to learn from others or admit when they don’t know how to do something. Team members also assessed their teams’ attitudes and performance.

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